Saturday – Swamp, Sips, and Aggie Success
I went to bed Friday night with full intentions of waking up to run my scheduled 5 miles for the half marathon training in the morning, but it didn’t happen. I must have needed the sleep because I slept until almost 8:00 which is super late for me. this put me behind schedule a bit and had me double check the ferry times for Cumberland Island which is where I thought I was going today. Boy am I glad I did. Turns out the ferry times were different than what I saw when I originally planned the trip, and if I went there I would have had to stay on the island all day which wasn’t what I necessarily wanted. I opted instead to go to the Okefenokee Swamp, and I’m SO glad I did.
The Okefenokee Swamp was more beautiful than I could have ever imagined today. I started with the guided riverboat tour and ended the visit with a walk down the boardwalk to the observation deck. The riverboat tour was an hour and a half long and provided plenty of time for me to enjoy the views as well as have some solitude for thoughts. One thing that stood out to me on this journey was all the beautiful Spanish Moss. It was something my dad really loved and made me feel a bit closer to him.
After the swamp, I headed back to my rental to rest before heading back to Jacksonville for the evening. I tried out Louie’s Cantina and was in for a pleasant surprise! I ordered queso, the surf and turf taco, and elotes, along with a raspberry margarita on the rocks. It was all SO delicious. This margarita far surpassed the previous night’s. The best part by far about Louie’s was that as I sat down at the bar and started looking at the menu, something caught my eye on the TV at the other end of the bar. It was a crowd of fans waving white towels. I had hit the jackpot; they had the Aggie game on. I immediately asked if they could switch it to the TV in front of me. I had noticed that a guy on that end of the bar was watching the LSU vs UK game that was on in front of me, so it would be perfect for both of us to switch them. I knew he was watching UK, because we had a short conversation about it since my family is from Kentucky and I grew up with UK gear as well as A&M gear. We were both surprised the other was rooting for UK. As I sat there and watched the Aggie game I couldn’t help but smile. It was NOT my normal luck to just happen into picking a place that had the game on.
While sitting at the bar, watching the game, I quickly got in my feels about the guy I’m talking to back home. Over the past month or so I became accustomed to him making me drinks at the bar, and it felt weird sitting at someone else’s bar having them make me drinks. I was texting him kissy face emojis with each touch down, but I knew he would be busy at work and unlikely to respond quickly. That game though! I don’t know if I’ve ever watched such an epic game. It was literally the epitome of Aggie football. Always the underdog and always pulling off the unthinkable.
As I was watching the game, sipping my raspberry margarita, and trying not to get too deep in my thoughts, a guy sitting next to me asked if I was a college football fan. I responded that I’m an Aggie football fan. He was intrigued and asked if I was from Texas. I made sure to keep the conversation limited, but did learn that he was a local, divorced, no kids, and had moved to Jacksonville for college and never left. I would be lying if I told you his name, because I am awful with them and don’t remember names well, especially if I know I’m not going to need to remember it. My take away from our conversation though, was that he suggested I go to Boneyard Beach the next day since it wasn’t far from where I was staying, and had beautiful views if I just want to see a beach and not swim. I made sure I searched it on Google so I could remember the name of the beach the next day. I’m so glad I actually engaged in the conversation and got the local tip. Boneyard Beach was now on my list for the next day.
Sunday – So Long Sunshine State
I slept late this morning, which was good because after the drinks at the bar, the excitement of the win, and the nightcap as I journaled before bed, I needed the extra sleep. I decided to go to Cracker Barrel for breakfast, which has been a vacation tradition for me since I was a kid. I try to make sure I continue the tradition even though Cracker Barrel hits differently now since Chris passed. Cracker Barrel is what started it all for Chris and I, believe it or not, and where we always went to eat on our anniversary, so now it’s always bittersweet when I go. With my personal life so up in the air it seemed extra hard today.
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After breakfast I headed to Boneyard Beach. This beach is just for walking, and enjoying the view. No swimming is allowed because the beach is scattered with downed trees and driftwood. It is so unique and so beautiful. The trails to get to the beach access were all in a wooded area and so serene to walk through. After taking it all in, listening to the waves, and a brief photo shoot, I headed out.
On the way out I passed a sign for the Kingsley Plantation, which I vaguely remembered seeing a brochure about at my rental house. I decided to turn around and check it out since I had time still in the day. At first I thought it would be fun just to get a picture of the sign since my youngest daughter Grace’s first name is Kingsley, but as I pulled onto the road to the plantation I realized this would be much more than just a photo opportunity. The road to the plantation looked liked something out of a movie, just begging me to go on an adventure.
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The views on the mile and a half drive to the plantation were breathtaking. As I arrived at the plantation I knew that the history would be rich. The Kingsley plantation is the oldest still standing plantation in Florida. The main home and another are still in good shape. The slaves quarters, which were devastating to see, where more in ruins. Touring the plantation was a stark reminder of how far we have come, and how much further we still need to go in the realm of social justice.
After leaving the plantation I headed back to the coastal cabin to clean up, pack, and make a pre-flight drink to calm my nerves. I’m not usually nervous about flying, and today was really no different. I think I more so wanted to calm my thoughts about all the things I would need to face when I get back to Texas. I got the Jeep washed and vacuumed out and headed to the airport. I had to sit for a while before I went through TSA to finish my “jitter juice” I had made at the cabin, because I knew they would make me pour it out. I spent that time making a TikTok. You’re welcome.
I used the flight back to Texas to finish writing this, my Florida friend was messaging about how his weekend with the new girl he was talking to didn’t go great, my guy in College Station was texting with small talk, and my mind continued to race. I gave my Florida friend the advice I tell myself daily, “Don’t be someone’s second choice. You should be their only and their priority. If you aren’t, let them go.” If I could only listen to my own advice. I continued the small talk with my College Station guy avoiding the more serious discussion that is to come. This trip was complicated from the start, and I feel like as much clarity as I came to on the trip, I still have more to come when I get home.
This trip was much different than my last solo trip. I’m not sure if it’s because of the shift in the nature of the trip, the lack of complete closure, or if it’s the looming “where is this going” conversation that I know has to be had when I get back. Despite the clouds of unknown and potential hurt I’m flying into on the way home, this solo adventure brought plenty of sunshine at least for the long weekend, with a few take away lessons.
The sunshine state taught me to continue to love myself and that I can feel beautiful even if I’m not happy with my current state.
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Georgia’s motto of “Wisdom, Justice, & Moderation” spoke to me in volumes this weekend. I need wisdom in relationships to know when to ask the right questions, when to walk away, and when to hold on. I need to make sure I continue to act justly when speaking to potential partners and continue to be completely honest and transparent no matter how it changes my plans. Last but not least, all things need to be done in moderation. While I had fun over the summer toying with the idea of dating, meeting new people, and having a good time indulging in food, drinks, and festivities, I’m paying for it now. My heart is hurting, my clothes are tight, and I needed more than a 4 day weekend to sort out my chaos.
As raw and unpleasant as that is to write, I need to get it down. There is something about putting it in writing that makes it seem so much more concrete. One thing that I can feel in my soul is that change is coming. I’m not completely sure what that change or changes will be, but I know I tend to be fearful of change. For me, more often than not, the changes I get aren’t usually something I want, and definitely aren’t comfortable, BUT with change comes growth. What I do know is that whatever changes are coming my way, they are part of God’s perfect plan, and I know that I should have no fear of the changes to come, because FEAR IS A LIAR.